guys are more complicated?

Question by limeoh: guys are more complicated?
I honestly don’t understand what is going on in my relationship anymore, all i know is that i am hopelessly in love with my boyfriend who will do and say the cheesiest and most romantic things. BUT he has no common sense…. He’s a super nice guy and no one would ever say hes mean or anything. if anyone ever meets him they would want to be his friend. He will always go out of his way for you. however he may not be boyfriend material? or just immatures too easily pressured by his friends?? i dont get it.
He would leave roses at my door step everyday when i came home from work, and never called me after twelve. He made me a photo album and drew both of us together.

Last year when we were at his house planning to go to a party together, some of his friends showed up at his house with beer. I honesty do not mind guys doing stupid things and i never had problems with my ex’s friends. But his friends wanted to go to a strip club, which im fine with but i never went so i was curious. They were deciding whether to go or not while watching a movie, so i decided to go use the restroom. When i come out, his friend asks him is he going to take me home. He says yes and takes me to his room and says ” we been seeing each other alot and uhh” I cut him off and ask him if hes going to the strip club, and he says no. Then i ask him what the problem is, and says there isnt one. He then tells me he is tired and wanted to take me home so he can rest. Thats when it hit me, he was lying. He obviously was going to take me home and go to the club. To make it worst, his friend pops his head in and looks at us, and then closes the door. Then right outside of the door he starts laughing really hard and says ” Dude, she looks sooo pissed”
I felt pathetic, stupid, how the heck did i end up in this situation. That night i broke up with my boyfriend. However i believed in second chances and we ended up back together. However he always defended why he lied, and their still friends. He gets frustrated saying why i dont trust him when i didnt like him going out with his friends. All i do is worry which gets him annoyed.
Its been a year since that happened, and he hasnt lied to me ever. But i still find it hard to trust him. He gets angry when i dont like him hanging out with his friends and tells me i should trust him, and that he hasnt done anything bad. How do i explain to him that he cant earn his trust that way? cause i dont know what hes doing when hes not with me. We would plan something and he would often not call me making me wait an hour. Then when i call him hes watching tv at home. I told him if he wanted to go later he could have told me. he says okay and he understands. but when i ask him what he understands, he says he understands that he has to call me everyday or else i will get angry………… -___-

Then the other day at a party, i asked him to play beer pong with me, and he said okay. Then a minute later he was gone. He ditched me. I understand he was drunk, but so was I and i was upset. Afterward he came to talk to me but when i told him i was upset about him ditching me, he said i thought u trust me. His explanation is, if i trusted him then i would be okay with him ditching me. Does that even make sense?
his guy friends from high school are also making a big deal about him seeing me often. We see each other almost everyday, however he says he’s fine with it. If he doesnt want to see me everyday than tell me! his friends keep telling me to let him go out with them, but im NOT not letting him go! its his own choice! I feel like their such drama kings cause my friends are fine with me hanging out with my bf all the time. They understand and will always be there for me.
Then i start to wonder if hes telling me the truth about how he feels. Is he avoiding the blame? Telling his friends its me, telling me its his friends. Telling he doesnt mind when he does. Honestly why is it so complicated.
Now it seems like hes happy to see me, but when i tell him i miss him, he makes me feel guilty. I would try to bring up something but he would fall asleep. I guess i bored him with our problems to the point he doesnt care. only time hes frustrated is when i try to talk to him about it. Now it seems like im last on his list. everything comes before me. Yet he still says he loves me and im not on the bottom of the list. its so hard to trust him. Is this complicating or is there some secret guy language that i dont understand here? He says he loves me and im the best thing that ever happened to him. But do u think he really means it? Is it just me overeacting because i dont trust him? does he deserve more trust that i give him? please help

Best answer:

Answer by dbf064
That was the longest question I’ve ever read.

I’d probably step back slightly from the relationship if i were you, let him put in more effort. It sounds as if you are doing most of the work.

It might help bit if you maybe see each other a little less often. This gives you both some time to yourselves and friends which is very important. It doesn’t mean you will be less close, just means you get time to be yourselves.

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